Photo Update

Zeke shows off his bandaid from his blood test.



Singing into a Mountain Dew bottle.



His latest trick... this is one for the 21st album! (He makes honking noises into the bottle so his cheeks puff out)



Having a swim with some of our mum's group friends



Bathtime with Aunty Leah



"What is this thing on my head?"



Chewing on his rubber duckie.

Hopefully that will tide everyone over for a while, I'm trying to get a new update started!

My Ticklish Boy!

You can view the You-tube (better quality) here

Adrienne...

This is just for you!


Zeke shows off his new trick, holding the bottle with his feet. He can almost drink a whole 180mls (6oz) by himself without help now!


Storytime at the library - playing with the beadframe after the stories were finished


MMMMM... green beans and spaghetti one of Zeke's favourites!


Modelling the paper hat I made for him.


Zeke's first trick of the New Year!


Checking out the new cot - he loves it and sleeps so well!


This is what happens when you shake a bottle - see all the drops of milk all over his face?

There you are Miss A, I hope you like it!

Sleeping Breakthrough

We got a cot for Zeke a little while ago just before Christmas, and I have been doing the usual thing of rocking/nursing to sleep and putting him down in it. He has done quite well, and usually only wakes around 3am for a feed, at which point he comes back into bed with me for the rest of the night.

Anyway the other day we were both getting frustrated at each other (him: because he was overtired and fighting sleep me: because I knew he was tired & needed to sleep but wouldn't) and so I left him in his cot for a minute so I could get a glass of water and we could both chill.

He HOWLED for the first few seconds when I left, but as soon as the door was closed stuck his dummy back in and went to sleep in about 30 seconds! He obviously needed peace & quiet and me not bothering him anymore!

I thought it was a bit of a fluke since then because he's needed to be rocked to sleep ever since, but a couple of days ago I decided to try something different. I BF'd him till he was quite sleepy, and then popped him in the cot, awake but sleepy, gave him a kiss and left. I left the door open enough so I could see him but he couldn't see me. First he crawled up the other end of the cot to watch his fan spinning, then after a couple of minutes went back to the head end of his cot, put him dummy back in and went to sleep - ALL BY HIMSELF WITHOUT A WHIMPER!

I've been doing this ever since for every nap, and he's been laying down quietly and going to sleep! Sometimes he'll stay awake and play for a few minutes, but after all of that he always goes to sleep peacefully!

I can't believe he started doing this all of a sudden... no tears, no tantrums! (yet... heheh)

Blogging Hiatus

The last few days I've had some strict no-computer time as I've had a few things that really needed to be done, and if the computer is on, I will procrastinate there instead of cleaning up. Which brings me to my next topic. How can you fit in everything you need during the day, housework, baby care and a little bit (or a lot) of 'you' time?


Even with a baby-led way of parenting, when Zeke chooses his own naptimes during the day and bedtime at night, there is still a certain pattern to our day, that lets me get some housework finished, a blog entry done or some other online time, dinner started or whatever else it is I need to do.


The trick is to take note of your baby's patterns. They may always have an hour sleep in the morning, or a long sleep in the middle of the day. Use these times to get things done, but prioritise the things you need to do. Getting a head start on dinner is always good, as is doing some dishes or laundry (if bubs can sleep through the washing machine) however, if you have to choose between starting dinner or cleaning the windows, start dinner, even if it will have to be reheated at mealtimes. It is near impossible to cook when the baby is tired/hungry later in the evening.

Multi-tasking is great as well. If your mind allows you to focus on more than one thing, you can work on several small projects at once. For example you want to check your emails, do the dishes, and get a load of laundry done, pick up all the bits of rubbish toys on the floor, but only have 60-90 minutes while your little one naps.

Try this:

1. Put baby to sleep in cot/your bed/wherever works
2. Pick up toys/rubbish on the way back
3. Turn on your computer
4. While it boots, fill sink and put first load of dishes to soak
5. Check baby... turn face to side so nose is no longer pressed in mattress
6. Collect a few spare toys en route
7. Collect dirty laundry in basket
8. Do first sink of dishes & leave to air dry
9. Pick up bits off kitchen floor while there
10. Put laundry on
11. Pick up all bits of rubbish/toys en route and put in appropriate place
12. Rush to shut baby's door so washing machine does not wake.
13. Read emails.
14. Check baby again... rotate so head is not pressed against cot bars
15. Dry dishes & think of responses to emails
16. Check baby did not wake when you dropped entire cutlery drawer
17. Put next load of dishes in to soak
18. Reply to a couple of emails
19. Do next lot of dishes & leave to air dry
20. Return to computer to reply to more emails etc
21. Continue switching between computer & dishes

The theory being (and it works for me) that you do not get too bored/frustrated with any one task, and do not end up spending too much time waiting for your emails to load, crusty dishes to soften etc... obviously if you are still sleep-deprived this may not work because you will forget what you started.

But what if your LO doesn't nap, and is insisting on round-the-clock attention? Again the multi-tasking comes into play. Start playing with the baby in a safe place (where you can leave them) and when they're engaged get up and pick up a few things, fill the sink, etc. You may only get a couple of minutes in between returning to your child and resuming play or giving them a cuddle... but even a few less things on the floor or a couple of clean coffee mugs really helps the atmosphere feel less chaotic.

ALWAYS REMEMBER: Sleep is the MOST IMPORTANT priority as a new mum. If you are pooped and your child is asleep, throw a load of clothes in the wash and lay down. There is no point having a tidy house if you are exhausted to the point of tears. The first thing I do when Zeke goes down is consider if I need a nap myself!

Anyway, I know Zeke's nap is rapidly coming to an end (the builders next door have just come off lunch break and are banging and crashing with abandon,) so I'd best get myself another drink, throw some more clothes in the washer and get back to it!

Miranda

Reasons to Love Co-Sleeping

Although I had not really planned on co-sleeping while I was pregnant - I had no objections to it, but it never really crossed my mind - Zeke, Ryan and I now sleep 3 to a bed at home, and when we go away. We are weaning to the cot now, as Zeke is becoming more mobile while he is asleep and that is causing me to lose sleep when he kicks/wriggles, and because it is summer here and too hot even without covers for 3 people (all who naturally have a higher body temperature while asleep) to be in such close proximity. Zeke is also beginning to drop his overnight feeds, making the main reason I chose to co-sleep no longer necessary.

Despite the fact that our co-sleeping is slowly winding down (it will probably never 100% finish in the event that Zeke is unwell, had a bad dream or just needs a snuggle) I still love it, and really enjoy the benefits for myself and my baby, not to mention knowing that I'm making the right choice for my family.

So why consider co-sleeping?

• Co-sleeping, when performed safely, with the appropriate measures to prevent suffocation and falls from the bed has been shown to have a lower incidence of SIDS
• You are so much closer to your baby overnight, that when they wake they rarely need to cry as their early hunger signs, a small snuffle, rooting for a breast/bottle will stir you more easily than if they were in their own bed (whether in your room or their own.) Ryan does not often get disturbed by Zeke's wakings as I am usually awake and ready to nurse well before Zeke gets to crying point
• Because the baby has less reason to cry, the transition from bed to breast/bottle is easier, your baby is calmer and will latch and feed almost immediately and without fuss.
• If you are breastfeeding, you can remain lying down while feeding your baby at your side, allowing you to doze, and not wake up fully... and the more rest you get as a new mother the better!
• The transition back to sleep is smoother as well, all you have to do is lie both of you down and snuggle up again. No need to walk back to their bed, and settle them back in, waiting until they are asleep before heading back yourself.
• If you stay away for a night, there is no need to bring a portable cot for your baby. (Providing you know there is a suitable bed for you to co-sleep. ALWAYS check this before hand so you can arrange alternate bedding if you need) This saves on money for the purchase/hire of a cot, room for luggage in the car, and can ensure the baby continues their normal sleeping pattern while away even in an unfamiliar environment as you are there and can be their 'security blanket'
• If you plan to co-sleep and let the baby nap on your bed during the day, the purchase of a cot can be put off for some time, which for Ryan & I as a single-income family was a huge bonus. Had we not co-slept we would have had to purchase a cot when Zeke was around 4 months old and outgrew his bassinette (which he rarely slept in anyway!)
• You and your baby are wonderfully close and warm all night, and non-food wakings are usually less, as anything that may startle your baby into waking is usually counteracted by the immediate closeness and warmth of your own body. When Zeke startles at night, he throws his hands into the air and gropes around till they rest on my face/neck/breasts at which point he immediately goes back into a deep, restful sleep. I only have noticed this because I am awake at the time, I don't know if he has ever done it while I am asleep.
• The warmth and scent of your baby under your nose and against your heart is a wonderfully soothing experience, it is surprisingly easy to sleep with that warm little weight in your arms.
• Mornings are often started with a smile, because you wake when the baby does, meaning they don't need to get to crying point - a wonderful start to the day!

If you are nervous about co-sleeping, afraid you will roll onto your baby etc, it is amazing how much you don't move! I normally shuffle, roll, kick and goodness knows what else while I am asleep, but as soon as Zeke is next to me, he comes into my arms and I don't move a muscle all night. This means I actually have more restful sleep as well!

If you are really nervous, perhaps try a nap with your baby during the day when someone else is around to keep an eye on things - you may be surprised how instinctive it is.

Co-sleeping isn't a choice for everyone for whatever reason, and you should carefully consider the risks of co-sleeping, and whether or not you can do it safely before you make the decision, but if you do, I hope you enjoy your lovely restful cuddles as much as I do!

Storytime at the Library

Monday mornings at our local library is Tiny Tots Storytime. It's a half hour session for children 0-3years, although there are often older siblings around too. It consists of 4 or 5 books about a specific 'theme' (eg: beach, animals etc) a few songs and nursery rhymes, a small craft project and then a general play session for half an hour or so while everything gets packed up. Best of all - it's FREE!

Zeke absolutely LOVES it. He doesn't always sit and listen to the books, but really enjoys the singing, and the social aspect. This week our theme was animals, and we read 5 books about different animals, mostly jungle ones. The books are all very engaging, brightly coloured and contained a lot of animal noises so the librarian had to be very enthusiastic, roar like a lion, trumpet like an elephant, screech like a monkey etc, which the kids loved!

The craft project is very simple as a rule, we had a paper cutout monkey, which was coloured and then attached to paddle pop stick and a peice of string to make a puppet. Zeke is a little small for that - he ripped the monkey's foot off twice and tried to eat it, but he had a go at the colouring (he bangs the crayon on the paper) and now that it's finished enjoys watching the monkey bobbing around on its string.

The social play session afterwards is Zeke's favourite. They have bead frames to play with, which he loves, as we don't own one yet ourselves, and the other kids mill around, chat and crawl. It's a fun, if not noisy time, and Zeke really gets into it. Yesterday he saw another baby about 5 metres (a little over 16ft!) away and went shuffling over at light speed to say hello. He & his new friend (who was a little shy when confronted with my shrieking, in-your-face son!) had a bit of a baby-chat, and I got to have a talk to the other mums as well.

I get a few blank looks when I tell people I take a 7-month old to story time, so why do it?

Benefits for you:

• As a SAHM it's important for your sanity to get out of the house occasionally and have fun.
• It's a wonderful social opportunity for you, you can meet some other mums in your local area, and make friends.
• It's a great chance after the session to return your books and pickup a couple of new ones for yourself
• Sitting and listening to another person reading I have found to be much easier than trying to hold a squirming child and a book at the same time
• If like me, your Library is within walking distance, (and has paid parking!) leave the car at home, get out the pram and have a stroll
• The songs and books covered are a combination of old favourites and as some new ones, refreshing your memory and teaching you some new ones as well
• The simple, cheap (and relatively mess-free) craft ideas are easily replicated at home on a rainy day
• You don't have to spend a cent to have a nice morning out!

Benefits for your baby:

• It encourages an early love of reading and books for children, which will give them many benefits as they begin school, and start to get out in the world on their own. This site has some information on the benefits and other ways to promote literacy in your child.
• For older children it can help their reading and language development, and introduce new words and concepts to them
• For pre-verbal children like Zeke, it's a great chance to 'study' the art of conversation, listening to the rise and fall of the librarian's voice as she reads, and listening to the other children coo, laugh and sing
• Imagination is never far away. "Can you roar like a lion?" "What would YOU do if you had a pet monster?" etc... the kids are encouraged to be creative and think outside the square
• It teaches a range of social skills, to be quiet when someone else is talking, taking and waiting turns, sitting down in a group, sharing etc. (Zeke is a little young to grasp this, but I still encourage him to sit down during the story like everyone else rather than standing up and holding onto me)
• As well as teaching new social skills, it gives your bub a chance to practise them with the other children.
• The art projects require hand-eye co-ordination, imagination and give them something to take home to show Daddy. (Or Mummy if Daddy takes them!)

Most libraries have some form of storytime for children, and it's free, easy and fun. Why not ask at yours and find out?

Some pictures from our most recent session:

Zeke playing with the bead frame shortly before going to say hi to the other babies

Exhausted in the pram after our walk home

His puppet monkey... note all the stickytape holding it together!